yah yah... have you read a book called 'the rule'? it is quite a rage several years ago. in brief, the woman should act as if the man is a dumb creature that will withdraw once you open up. hence, all the tactics to appear mysterious, busy, occupied, uninterst etc.

Barbara de Angelis then made a book called the Real Rules, with the underlying message that a good man is the one that can accept you just the way you are. So, if you are interested, show it. If you wanna hear his voice, call him. It does not hurt. ^_^

Frankly, I like this principle much much more.

And oh, Barbara also said that only a man that'snot worth it will fall prey to the trap of 'the rules'. Opening up yourself is actually a 'screener' to select which man is good etc.

Dunno, but I myself have preferences towards Indonesian man, coz kl gue mo neriakin, mrk lebih cuneng hehhehehe..