Could I Have Two Valentines?
What to do when deciding which of two people is your soul mate.
By Thomas Moore

Dear Thomas,

What if a person thinks he has more than one soul mate and is having difficulty picking the one whom he wants to spend his life with-and each soul mate has different attributes about them that he loves. How to decide? -- Tom

Dear Tom,
At a certain point in life, many of us find ourselves in the difficult situation of loving two people and feeling the need to choose one over the other. The situation can be torture, and anyone can feel torn apart. I don't mean to take anything away from your feelings, but your language hints at a solution. You sound as though you're standing back and judging these people. I suspect that if you let yourself get closer to each of them, the choice would be made for you. As a therapist, I listen closely to the words people use. When you use the word "picking," my ears prick up.

The way I imagine a deep soul connection, love picks you and your partner. The "soul" part of soul mate is the depth of the connection. It goes beyond reason and control and seems to be ordained by fate. Maybe you need to take more time to be involved with these people and let a decision emerge. If you really are soul mates, you should be able to talk with enough honesty and depth to know what to do. If you yourself acted like a soul mate, you would describe the situation as two people together making a decision, not one sizing up the other. You have to ease up on your desire to know everything and to be in control-so you'll see the signs of real love. When you make the shift from being fully in charge to letting life happen, you'll discover how to be-and have-a soul mate.

Note: Thomas Moore is an author, psychotherapist, lecturer, and Beliefnet.com relationships columnist who has published many books and articles in the areas of archetypal and Jungian psychology, religion, mythology, relationships, and the arts. Moore lived as a monk in a Catholic religious order for thirteen years. A former professor of psychology, he has a Ph.D. in religious studies, an M.A. in theology, and an M.A. in musicology. He lives in New England with his wife, the artist Joan Hanley, and their two children. He is on the web at careofthesoul.net

hm.. interesting...

umm kayanya ga ada aturan kalo soul mate harus cuma satu.

what's better than finally finding a soul mate? finding two soul mates!

*kabur sblom pada protes*

Top 10 Ways to Get Lucky at Love

By Kathryn Lord Special to Yahoo! Personals Updated: Jun 14, 2007
Kathryn Lord

1. Know what you want. Your looks change and fade, character does not. While a certain amount of "chemistry" is nice, don't rely solely on lust. What qualities are you looking for in a mate? My book "Find a Sweetheart Soon! Your Love Trip Planner for Women" helps readers define their love goals.
2. Get clear about what you don't want. Knowing what you really can't tolerate in a partner is important. Make a list of your "don't wants" and then cut it down to the 10 most important. Any more than that and you'll be too picky.
3. Live your life. Once you know clearly what you want (and don't want) in a relationship, shift your focus to living your life. You'll find that you start noticing those who might fit, and passing by those who don't.
4. See the big picture. Don't try so hard that you miss the obvious. If you are great at focusing, step back now and then and look at the big picture. Work on having a playful, whimsical attitude towards life.
5. Get out of the house. Cultivate opportunities to “expand your social circle and meet new people” expand your social circle and meet new people. Vary your routine. Have you thought of entertaining to enlarge your social circle? My new ebook "Looking for Action? The Find a Sweetheart Party Planner" tells you how to throw parties to build a wonderful group of close friends - it's easy!
6. Open your eyes and your attitude. Lucky people notice, create and maximize chance opportunities. Chat with other shoppers while you are waiting in line. Be ready with a "calling card" -- a personal business-type card with basic contact information. (Want to know how to get calling cards for free? Email me for instructions).
7. Get curious. Don't content yourself with the obvious. Ask questions. Wonder why. Find answers.
8. Try something new. The best way to have things stay the same is to never do anything different. Vary your daily routine, just to keep yourself awake. Shake yourself up and notice what happens. Keep yourself open to chance opportunities, and then take advantage of them.
9. Expect good luck. Monitor your self-talk for negative messages that interfere with luck. Replace the negative thoughts with positives. Surround yourself with examples of lucky people.
10. Learn from bad luck. Take steps to prevent more bad luck from what you have learned, then let the "bad" go. Don't dwell on or rehash the bad experience. Look for the positive elements.

Kathryn Lord, romance coach and author, met her now husband Drew online. Out of the dating world for years, Kathryn conquered her fears, found her perfect mate and built a solid relationship. She put what she has learned into writing in "Find A Sweetheart Soon! Your Love Trip Planner for Women." A psychotherapist, Kathryn has been helping singles and couples for more than 25 years. She is on the web at Find-a-Sweetheart.com.
Source: 10 tips for love that lasts

jadi harus sering mejeng di mall yah. icic

So now you all know why the new drinks called 'Whatever' &
'Anything'.....Oh
yes, the next new ones will be named 'You decide'!

(Whatever)

Men: What to have for dinner?
Women: Whatever..
Men: Why not we have steamboat?
Women: Don't want la, eat steamboat later got pimples in my face
Men: Alright, why not we have Si Chuan cuisine
Women: Yesterday eat Si Chuan, today eat again?
Men: Hmm..... then I suggest we have seafood
Women: Seafood no good la, later I got diarrhea
Men: Then what you suggest?
Women : Whatever..

(Anything)

Men: So what should we do now?
Women: Anything
Men: How about watching a movie? Long time we havn't watch a movie
Women: Watching movie no good la, waste time only
Men: How about we go bowling, do some exercises?
Women: Exercise on such hot day? You not feel tired meh?
Men: Then find a café and have a drink
Women: Drinking coffee will affect my sleep
Men: Then what you suggest?
Women: Anything

(You decide)

Men: Then we just go home lo
Women: You decide
Men: Let's take a bus
Women: Bus is dirty and crowded. Don't want la
Men: Ok we will take taxi then
Women: Not worth it la... for such a short distance
Men: Alright, then we walk lo. Take a slow walk
Women: How to walk with empty stomach?
Men: Then what you suggest?
Women: You decide
Men: Let's have dinner first
Women: Whatever...
Men: Eat what?
Women: Anything

What His Celeb Crush Says About Him
Posted by David Zinczenko
on Tue, Jul 03, 2007, 11:23 am PDT

What His Celeb Crush Says about Himself

Throughout their lives, men have all kinds of crushes. When they're growing up, they may have crushes on their teachers. When they're all grown up, crushes can come in the form of co-workers, neighbors, coffee pourers, spinning instructors, you name it.

The thing about most crushes, though, is that they tend to fade faster than Fantasia's career. Easy come, easy go. One kind of crush that sticks with a guy: the celebrity crush.

About four in five men say they fantasize about other women, with a good many of them saying that famous women are the stars of the show. Though the characters may change from time to time, guys often choose their celebrity crushes based on some deeper longing for what they want in women.

Early on, the overriding factor may have been the prevalence of skin (Bo, Farrah, Pamela, and SI swimsuit models being excellent examples). But as men grow up, it's more than just physical attraction to the kind of woman he features in his cerebral movie theater - it's the total package that includes not only her looks, but what her looks, lifestyle, and personality may also represent.

If he fantasizes about...Angelina Jolie
It may mean... He's attracted to a do-gooder woman who also isn't afraid to show a bit of a wild streak. It's the reason why Jolie tops so many men's wish lists: They want the woman who is good, but not too good. And the woman who is sultry, but not too sultry.

If he fantasizes about...Jennifer Aniston
It may mean... Attracted to Aniston's innocent persona, he likes the girl next door and yearns to be the household protector. Though traditional gender roles have certainly changed and evolved over the last several decades, many men still enjoy playing the role of the prince who rescues the damsel in distress.

If he fantasizes about...The young, troubled beauties (Paris, Lindsay, Britney)
It may mean... He's attracted to risk-takers-and women who don't care what other women may think about them. That, and perhaps the boy has got more loose screws than a hardware store.

If he fantasizes about...Halle Berry, Scarlett Johansson
It may mean... That he has darn good taste. Physically, they represent classic feminine beauty-their curves, their skin, their heart-stopping faces. That may mean he has very high standards-and seeks relationship perfection.

If he fantasizes about...Julianne Moore, Michelle Pfeiffer
It may mean...He appreciates that experience, knowledge, and just the right amount of sass and humor goes a long way to making for strong relationships. Mrs. Robinson jokes aside, he appreciates maturity-and all the good things that come with it.

If he fantasizes about...Pam Anderson
It may mean... Do I really have to say it?

If he fantasizes about...Beyonce, J. Lo, Fergie, Janet
It may mean... That he's not only into curves and lovely lady humps, but that he's also into women who have some relationship rhythm. He wants a woman who's able to let loose, show her moves, and someone who's confident being on center stage-sexually and socially.

If he fantasizes about...Any character from Grey's Anatomy
It may mean... That he's a sensitive dude. Not because he's got a thing for Meredith, Izzie, or the rest of the crew, but because-instead of being at a bar or a ball game-he's obviously sitting next to you on Thursday nights.

Bottom line on all this: Fantasy crushes are kind of like practice for the big game, allowing someone to keep one's emotions and instincts in check while imagining the big event with a partner. So encourage the crushes, and keep him primed for the real thing. And speaking of such things, I'd love to hear who your biggest crush objects are (and why). Share them here.

and who do you fantasize, pepe?

soo umm what about those who about fantasizes anime characters? highly creative and tend to think outside the box?

btw, napa sih "outside the box"? what box?

Azalae menulis:
soo umm what about those who about fantasizes anime characters? highly creative and tend to think outside the box?