Our world is becoming more and more virtual. The Internet has become a place of rest and entertainment, work, a means of communication with distant friends and completely unknown people, a second wallet and even a place for virtual dates. The controversy and jokes about virtual love and its consequences / prospects do not subside. See also: Where else can you find your chosen one, besides the Internet?
Does this love have a future? What are the dangers? And why are many of us looking for love on the Internet?
The Internet is a lot of opportunities for expressing your emotions and for communication - smiles, dating sites, resources of interest, instant messages, etc. There are a lot of temptations, and there are even more opportunities to get to know each other. Moreover, many people give preference to dating on the Internet, in reality bypassing potential "halves" per kilometer.
Why is love breaking out faster on the Internet than in real life?
An urgent need for attention. If in real life there is not enough emotion, communication and attention (and many are really deprived of it due to circumstances), the Internet becomes almost the only way to feel needed by someone.
Internet addiction. Social networks and sites of interest draw a person into the world wide web very quickly. Life in reality fades into the background. Because it is there, on the Internet, that we (as it seems to us) are understood, expected and loved, and at home and at work - only innuendo, quarrels and fatigue. On the Internet, we have practically no punishment and we can be anyone, in reality we need to be responsible for our words and actions. The dependence becomes the stronger, the poorer the person's real life.
Ease of making new acquaintances and "friends". It's easy on the internet. I went to a social network or a site of interest, threw a couple of phrases, clicked on the "traditional" heart in the photo - and you were noticed. If you are original, principled and clever, pouring humor right and left, and in your photo there is unearthly beauty (“so what, photoshop! And who knows something?â€), Then a crowd of fans is provided for you. And there, and not far from the favorites (with all that it implies).
Few dare to decide on the first step to acquaintance in real life. Meeting your half is even more difficult. On the Internet, everything is much simpler. You can hide behind the mask of an "avatar" and fictitious information about yourself. You can turn into a model with a 5th chest number or a tanned athlete with a Hollywood smile and a Porsche in the garage. Or, on the contrary, you can remain yourself and enjoy it, because in real life you have to keep yourself in check. And it seems - here he is! Such a charming, courageous - clever speech, courtesy ... And how he jokes! Innocent virtual flirting flows into e-mail, then Skype and ICQ. And then real life completely fades into the background, because all life is in these short messages "from Him".
In reality, hoaxes are meaningless. "Hu from hu" - you can see right away. On the Web, you can distort your “I†to infinity, until the one “bites†the one from whose speeches you cannot fall asleep at night.
The image of the person on which we focus our attention on the Internet draws, for the most part, our imagination. What it really is is unknown, but we already have our own "levels" and ideas about what it should be like. And, of course, on the other side of the monitor simply cannot sit a nerd with glasses, interested only in cockroaches in his aquarium, or a blurry housewife with cucumbers on her face! The more illusions, the richer our imagination, the harder it is later to realize that at the “end†of the Internet there is a person like you. Maybe with stretched knees on sweatpants, with a bike instead of a Porsche, with (oh, horror) a pimple on the nose.
It is easier for strangers (this happens on trains, with fellow travelers) to reveal their feelings. Ease of communication creates the illusion of mutual interest.
It is almost impossible to see human flaws on the net. Even if the resume honestly says "Gluttonous, arrogant snob, I adore women, freebies and money, unprincipled, attracted, consisted, who doesn't like the book of complaints around the corner" - this person brings a smile and, oddly enough, immediately disposes to himself. Because it's intriguing, creative and daring.
The biggest problem that virtual love can deliver is the rupture of an "epistolary novel" via ICQ or mail. That is, no pregnancy, alimony, division of property, etc.
Mystery, inscrutability, the obligatory veil of "secrecy" - they always spur interest and feelings.