Loneliness is a painful feeling. When a person has addictions (for example, alcohol or food), as a rule, the feeling that he wants to drink or eat is loneliness.

Usually, people who are not in a relationship are considered lonely. But very often we have a loved one, but we feel lonely with him. We wholeheartedly want to be connected to a person, to be one with him, but our partner is not always available for such a "connection". Perhaps the partner has different opinions and views about the relationship, a different level of feelings. Or maybe you're just having a fight, angry, tired, or sick.

Let's look at when and why we feel lonely while in a relationship:

1. When your heart is closed, when you protect yourself from the wound with your anger.

2. When your partner is closed and angry, and does not want to communicate. You will be lonely if your partner deliberately chooses work, TV, food, alcohol, fishing and other hobbies, the Internet, meetings with friends, etc. instead of you.

3. When you try to control the feelings of your partner, giving yourself completely, and demanding 100% of the partner's return.

4. When one or both of you are closed to communication, when there is a conflict and you do not want to solve it just by talking. When everyone remains at "their own", without telling the other their point of view. The reluctance to communicate about important issues creates a wall between you.

5. If you or your partner use your sexual relationship as a form of control, blackmail each other with it.

6. When you or your partner is in a state of excessive fatigue, stress, or illness.

All of the above can create loneliness. The loneliness goes away when we connect with each other, just by having a sincere conversation with an open heart.

So, we are not alone when:

1. Ready to be vulnerable and present, telling the truth without embellishment and guilt.

2. We take responsibility for the relationship, and do not avoid it by defensive behavior.

3. Ready to learn everything about yourself and your partner, especially in conflict situations.

4. We take care of ourselves and our partner.

5. Spend enough time together to communicate, make love, laugh, and enjoy each other. We are interested in developing our personality and developing our relationships.

When each of you is dedicated to developing the ability to love yourself and each other, your relationship has a high chance of a happy existence.

But we will always feel lonely when we give up on ourselves. Because when we are not connected to ourselves, we cannot connect to the other. If we love and value ourselves, then we can fully enjoy our privacy, as well as socialize with others when others are open to communication. Don't lose yourself in a relationship. Remember your true views, hobbies, and purpose. Be yourself. Then the partner will be interested in you. Then there will be harmony.