There are three major levers in our lives that, if we pull on them correctly, can change everything. Our career, our health, and our relationships can be the difference between depression and elation.
I learned this first hand because in the last 5 years I went through the excruciatingly painful and draining process of pulling all three levers at once.
I quit the career I had been building for over 7 years and I left my 10-year relationship with my girlfriend who I thought I was going to marry.
All of a sudden I was a career and relationship novice. I was depressed. I was scared. I was scarred.
After 9 months of misery and frustration I was about to give up on online dating all together.
One day, I was sitting in the shower feeling sorry for myself for over an hour. And then, for some unknown reason, my ambitious gene activated and a little voice in my head said, “you’re going to give up? No, no you’re not. You’re going to kick online dating’s ass!”
I began to channel my misery into anger, and my anger into determination. I began to approach online dating like one big experiment. I began creating what I called, “The Process.”